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The relationship between humans and animals is special because somehow, when the world gets to be too stressful, or when you seem to face any type of challenge — your pup is there. And your pet doesn’t judge you, doesn’t ask you to explain. Your dog simply lays its head in your lap and loves you. The loss of a pet is a terrible loss. There’s a poem, called the Rainbow Bridge poem, that can help you mourn the loss of a pet.
The Relationship Between Humans and Animals
It starts so sweetly and unassumingly. You bring your pup home. Whether it’s a newborn pup or an older rescue, it doesn’t take long for you to get used to your pet in your home: digging through your laundry, sleeping on your shoes, and licking your eyelids to wake you for a walk.
And before you know it, your pup’s a part of your life. Loves you, needs you… and you need your pet more than you thought you would. It’s strange because they can’t speak… but they understand every word you say (namely “walk,” “treat,” “bath,” and “love”).
So, when the day arrives, and it is inevitable, how do you cope with the loss of a pet?
Of course, some people assume pet grief hurts less than human grief, but they couldn’t be more mistaken.
The human-animal bond is powerful — if for no other reason than that you can truly love one another unconditionally.
The Rainbow Bridge Poem
“Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….”
— Author unknown
In the same way you might hold a memorial for a beloved family member and share words of comfort or play music, you can do the same when losing a pet. The Rainbow Bridge poem is a beautiful way to remind yourself that the human-animal bond is strong, and that your beloved dog gave your life true value
Your dog made your home feel like home; therefore, pet grief can mean feelings of isolation, anger, frustration, and extreme sadness. Losing a pet is never easy, but poems and lyrics like those in The Rainbow Bridge poem might remind you that it’s okay to feel and to remember.
How People Mourn
Of course, mourning is extremely personal — the loss of a pet can be hard because even when you’re alone at home, your pet is with you. The silence when your pet is gone can hurt more than the most deafening sound. So, you’ll want to allow yourself to mourn in a healthy way. Wouldn’t your pup want you to be happy, remember the best, but also move forward, knowing you shared something wonderful?
There are no rules when it comes to how you cope with loss of pet. One potential guarantee is that it won’t be easy, and as stated by the Palliative Care Editorial Board, “Grief… cannot be dealt with in a cookbook fashion”. Your personality, and your particular relationship with the pet who passed, will shape your needs.
Culturally and religiously, you may have ways of handling loss that differ from those around you… that’s more than okay, too. Listen to your heart. Ask for what you need. If you need some time alone, ask for it. Conversely, if you’d rather not be alone, ask for company. Share stories. Look back at photos and reminisce.
Tips on How to Cope with the Loss of a Pet
The big thing to remember when seeking out ways to deal with losing a pet is that you do not have to go it alone. There are several forms of support out there for grieving pet owners. In fact, there are even pet-bereavement counseling options.
And The Humane Society of the United States even recommends calling a “losing a pet” support hotline if need be. Usually, you can find pet-bereavement groups by jumping online. Or there may be posted flyers at your local market, library, vet, or groomer.
If you’re still struggling, or you prefer a more private approach to handling your pet grief, check out books on the subject from the library, read articles in magazines, or search for assistance online.
Here are a few more tips on how to cope with losing a pet:
- You can say to yourself, “I feel the pain of grief. I can sit with this. My dog meant too much to me not to feel this way. It’s okay to feel sad.”
- Call friends, family, other pet owners.
- Ask your local groomer or vet, someone who knows you and loved your pup, for referrals to grief groups. Your vet might even be able to simply connect you with someone going through the same thing.
- Host a memorial for your dog. This can be public or private.
- Keep a pet grief journal. You can write in it for as long as you feel you need to. You can record memories, or let out frustration. And if you want, when you’re ready, you can bury the journal outside.
- Listen to music that allows you to reflect and reminds you of your funny pup and the things they used to do. When you’re ready, switch the mood to some motivational, get-up-and-go beats.
- Get moving. It could help you clear your mind to continue walking at the same times during which you walked your pup.
- Eventually, you will be able to move on. You may decide to get a new pet, and that experience can be as richly rewarding as the last one, even though it’s sure to be different. No dog can replace the pet you lost, but building a new relationship could help you heal and bring you new joy.
Moving on…
Again, nobody experiences grief in the same way, but print The Rainbow Bridge poem out. Keep it with you for as long as you need to. And then, if you happen to come across another grieving dog owner in the future, you can share this poem that has become so popular.
The human animal bond needn’t be mysterious. There’s no need to diminish the meaning of your relationship with your pet just to move on. These things take time. Give yourself that time.
And remember the Rainbow Bridge poem, and that though your pup may be “long gone from your life,” they are “never absent from your heart.”
Learn More:
How to Introduce Cats and Dogs
Why Does My Dog Howl When I Play Music?
Domestication of Dogs: The Complex History of Man’s Best Friend
On 8/2/2022 our beautiful & precious baby girl “Crystal” left us peacefully in her sleep hugging next to us in our bed surrounded by love & for that we are eternally grateful. She was 16 1/2, a gorgeous Maltese who brought the greatest joy, comfort & happiness to our lives. She was never sick and lived a pampered life, she was our princess (travelled with us to Italy & cruised with us). We miss her so much & I have been crying every day (our lives will never be the same). She was our angel. Of course we are grateful to have had her in our life for so many years, but that makes it even harder….. Don’t cry because it’s over, but smile because it happened (I try to think that way, but it’s so hard). The hardest part of loving a pet is saying goodbye. Lately she had started to have some minor discomforts , she was older and luckily she left us peacefully and never suffered. She is not gone, just our of sight & will be missed & loved forever. Our house became the “Crystal Memorial”. She is in very room, canvases, collage canvases, pillows, picture frames, engraved heart messages, crystal butterfly in her birth stone, angels, pet memorial chime….(we kept her crates, bed, toys (harness, collar, leach – everything)…. Rainbow bridge canvas & plaque and etc… I light a candle every night by her Memorial. She is coming back to us since she is being Freeze Dried in a resting/laying down position & will look like she did when she was alive (she will be with us forever & her soul is in heaven). The bed in our guest bedroom is waiting for her with her favorite toy & special bow. She should be back with us before Easter (the process takes more than 6 months). I never had children & so she was my everything. We miss you baby girl…..
We’re sorry to hear about Crystal’s recent passing. We hope that you take comfort in the many cherished memories you’ve shared.
I just lost my Bichon named Angel on Friday August the 12th. She was 17 1/2 years old. Had her since she was 2 1/2 months old. She actually picked me. Had gone into a pet store looking for a certain cat, saw Angel, picked her up. She laid
her head on my shoulder and went to sleep. I said softly “what an angel”. My girlfriend heard me and said is that what you’re going to name her. Sure enough – that very day. We bonded than and stayed that way until the end. She had so many medical issues that she had no quality of life left and it was time to let her go. I believe we will be together again, but the wait is so painful. I look around and see the memories like where she chewed the corners of the cedar chests, corners of a rug, patched up pillows; etc. She was quite a chewer for quite a while. I could write a manuscript. OMG the pain. I miss her terribly.
We’re sorry for your loss. We hope that you take comfort in the many cherished memories you’ve shared.
I had to say goodbye to my best friend of 16 years today His name was Loki a Lab/Rottweiler cross. My husband and step daughter were right with me and Loki till the end. I lost a huge chunk of my heart today. We all did and are still crying. I am so sorry for everyone else here that are grieving. I do fully believe I will see him again but that doesn’t make today any easier.
We’re sorry to hear about Loki’s recent passing. The relationship between humans and animals is so special. We hope that you take comfort in the many cherished memories you’ve shared.
On July 9th, 2022 I lost my best buddy, Marco. He was 10 years old. A walker hound dog. He was my ptsd dog. I miss him so much. I cry nearly every day. I wake up out of dreams crying for him. Along with everyone here, I hurt deep inside. I can’t stop thinking about him. We had him cremated and I have his ashes on a shelf below his photograph. He was very photogenic. A camera ham. God, I love that dog and I cannot seem to let go of that bond of unconditional love we had.
We’re sorry to hear about Marco’s recent passing. We hope that you take comfort in the many cherished memories you’ve shared.
I just lost my little Yorkie 5 hours ago and heart broken as you can imagine. She was 13.
When I read the poem rainbow bridge it gives me hope that we will meet again.
I don’t know how I will get thru this loss, but I will and will never forget my love for her. She was my everything. I will miss her dearly.
I am so sorry for your very deep pain I know you’re experiencing right now. I lost my 17 year old long haired chihuahua named Gizmo just one month ago. Tonight I was sobbing and cried again reading the poem. During my most intense grief, I ask aloud for solace and peace. I hope it helps you too. But cry all you need.
We’re sorry for your loss. We hope that you take comfort in the many cherished memories you’ve shared.
My Daughter and her boyfriend just lost there beloved Wolfgang. They are the best pet parents. They called me Grammy to him and he knew it was me. And I loved him like a grandson. I heard someone say one day . They can’t talk but understand every word we say. That is so true and they just want us to love them. And in return they give us so much more.
I lost my beautiful feline girl on May 12,2022.
We had each other for 16 years and she was my angel . I told her it was okay to let go and leave me but she held on and I am so grateful to have had her for so long . This is what keeps me as the days pass . I’ll never forget my girl and I hope we meet at the Rainbow 🌈 Bridge and I hear her purr in my arms once more